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Being presented with ,en about other racial groups through, for example, nfed in which people of color drive the action but are not in stereotypical roles, or multicultural education challenge to white centrality. While they do not apply to every white person, they are well-documented overall: We can begin by: Being willing to tolerate the discomfort associated with an honest appraisal and discussion of our internalized superiority and racial privilege.
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